How a small choice to be open shifted my perspective — and how it can shift yours too.

A Seat on the Train

This past Monday, someone sat on the chair next to me on the Long Island Railroad. Usually, I’ll sit there and somehow justify not sharing the seat. I’d angle my bag just right — not hogging the spot, but not exactly inviting anyone either. And for the longest time, no one ever sat down.

But this time, I was different. I had a lot on my mind, but I set my spirit to be welcoming, no matter what. Just open. And that was the day someone finally sat beside me.

I didn’t even catch what he said — my music was up — but I could see he mouthed something like “Excuse me” or “Can I sit here?” Whatever it was, I didn’t resist. I didn’t roll my eyes. I didn’t think, Oh boy, now I lose my peace. I just welcomed him with my energy. I looked out the window, let the blurred glass hold my thoughts, and let him be.

The funny thing is, the woman sitting in front of me had her bag out too, and nobody sat next to her. And I thought, maybe it looks like she got the better deal, more space. But in that moment, I felt something different. I felt thankful that he sat next to me, thankful that my energy said: It’s safe here.

Openness Is an Energy

That moment wasn’t about noise, or space, or losing quiet. It was about realizing something bigger: you don’t need all the answers. You don’t need every “yes” lined up. Sometimes it’s just about being open.

And then you never know.

It could be an hour later, or days later, or just like that —
someone welcomes you.
Someone calls you.
A door opens.

Because you already gave — that welcoming energy — to a stranger on the train.

Lesley D. Nurse is the author of uplifting self-development and children’s books, including Phoebe’s Bright Adventure: Finding the Light Within and God Is Working on a Bigger Yes. Her writing blends real-life moments with hope, joy, and inspiration.

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